We’ve all seen those adorable photos of new babies looking so peaceful and relaxed and not a care in the world. And as new parents, we want similar pictures of our children to send out to grandparents, make them into screensavers, and blast out to our social media pages to show off our beautiful baby. But then session day comes around, and BAM! – your baby does not want anything to do with it. 

In this post, I am going to share How to Go With the Flow and Not Stress if Baby isn’t Cooperating.

You’re thinking, 

“Why won’t you stop crying? I’ve literally done everything I can think of, but you’re still not happy. Don’t you know I’m paying good money for this session? Sarah’s baby cooperated in her session, why can’t you go to sleep and let us get some lovely photos?!” 

All the other emotions that are running through your head. If this happens during your session, I want you to stop, breathe, and remember one thing: all newborns cry. 

This is a natural, real emotion that all newborns have for most of their first few months of life. It’s not abnormal. There is nothing wrong with your child for doing it. It is nothing to be ashamed of. They aren’t doing it to embarrass you. 

And when you stress out about the fact that your baby is crying, that then makes things even worse because he/she knows you’re upset.

Don’t let the crying upset you. Instead, embrace this moment in time. It won’t be long before you forget how their little forehead wrinkled up whenever they were screaming, or how his/her toes would get all stretched out and tense when he/she were was upset. 

Let us capture these little details. These crying photos can evoke real emotion and demonstrate the love you have for your child as you try to soothe him or her. Your child can look back at these photos once they’re all grown and remember the solace that they found in your arms. These tender moments are just as important, if not more so than the sleeping, posed photos. 

The point of booking a newborn session is to help you preserve the first memories of your child’s life.

While posed photos are cute, you’re not going to look back and think, “Remember how cute she was whenever she would lounge around the house in frog-form?” because that didn’t happen. Instead, you’ll look back at these photos and remember all the nights you walked your baby around the house or rocked him/her in a chair and hummed lullabies to try to calm him/her down. Those times are very stressful, but they also help you form a bond, making these photos even more treasured. 

Sleeping baby laying in a basket with a faux fur blanket-Debra Heschl Photography

All that being said, if you have your heart set on those peaceful, posed photos, we can always take a break and try again and, if all else fails, reschedule.